A distant heart and its lessons
While a professor was teaching,
he asked his students, 'why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each
other when they are upset?'
The students thought for a while and one said, “Because we lose our calm”. “But why shout when the other person is just next to you? asked the professor. “Isn't it possible
to speak to him or her with a soft voice?”
The students thought for a while and one said, “Because we lose our calm”. “But why shout when the other person is just next to you? asked the professor. “Isn't it possible
to speak to him or her with a soft voice?”
Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
In that class, the students
gave several answers but none satisfied the professor. Finally he explained, 'When
two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts
psychologically. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each
other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other
through that great distance.”
Then the Professor asked again,
'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but
talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are psychologically close. The distance
between them is very close.” The Professor continued, 'When they love each
other even more, what happens? They don't speak, only whisper and they even get
closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they
only look at each other and that's all.....
So, next time you shout on a
loved one, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that
person’s heart. Experience says a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh
word stirs up anger.
Please SHARE with as many
friends as you can; you may be healing a hot tempered person today. Life is
easy; don't make it complex … Enjoy every moment.
Also read: Growing up, Every Story, A Touching Story, A Good Question to Ask, Do More and Making Mistakes
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